The terrible threes and how to cope with it

The terrible threes and how to cope with it

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As my son reaches three years old, his “bad” behavior has started to show. He has started yelling and getting angry easily and he loves antagonistic movie characters. So, I evaluated our behavior as parents and his surroundings, and came up with a few solutions.

I also shared this issue on my Instagram account and received numerous responses from mothers with the same problem. I started reading articles and books, and also talked to a child psychologist and friends. It turns out that this is a totally normal phase, and most kids will go through it. As a matter of fact, this development is actually good for his well-being as it will shape him into a more confident character. It is our job to guide him.

Since lots of parents are facing this problem, I would like to share some tips that I know are kind of a cliché, but actually worked for my 3 year old:

Emphasize positive words

As we become emotional when we see our child acting up, we start saying things that we do not actually mean. Take a deep breath and choose your words wisely.

So for instance, if your child makes a scene in a public place, instead of saying “Stop yelling!” it is better to say “Can you please talk quietly?”. I often forget to do this too; it takes practice and persistence. However, on days I remember to do this, he tends to behave better and listen more.

Consistency

Because he is 3 years old, I am teaching him a lot of new stuff that frustrates him such as putting on his own shoes and clothes. He yells every time I tell him to do it. “I can’t do it myself, I want you to do it for me!” over and over again.

At times when I am in a hurry, I’ll do it for him. This sends out mixed signals. He thinks, “If I yell a little, mum will do it for me, so why should I do it myself?”. Therefore, my solution is to get ready earlier, allowing around 15 minutes of spare time. This way we are not in a hurry and don’t get frustrated when he starts yelling.

After a few weeks of being consistent, he is willing to put on his shoes and clothes himself without being told.

Yell less, love more

Easier said than done, I know. But when you explain to them the situation and your expectations, they will be more likely to listen.

We often treat children like children, whereas we should just explain to them as if they understand, because they do. Start talking when they stop yelling or crying. Do not try to talk over his tantrums, as that would be useless.

Let him finish crying, then ask him why is he upset, tell him why you are upset, and what you expect of him. Surprisingly, it works. I know it will be hard at first, especially in public places, but once you get the hang of it, it will make your life so much easier.

Hugs

Still in relation to the above advice: Hugging is the best solution. Research show that kids who receive more positive contact and affection during their childhood will be more likely to grow up kinder and smarter.

I don’t know whether it’s true or not, but choosing love over hatred makes a lot of sense to me.

Last but not least: Positive example

In theory, we know the drill. But in reality, we often forget that we yell and we complain when we get frustrated, and we give up easily when solving problems ( by we, I mean me ).

We do all those things probably not to our child, but in front of him. Therefore, once you become a parent, don’t forget that someone is watching your every movement.

Apple invests $1 billion in Chinese ride-hailing company

Apple invests $1 billion in Chinese ride-hailing company

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Apple Inc. has invested $1 billion in Chinese ride-hailing service Didi Chuxing, the main competitor in China for Uber Technologies Ltd.

Apple will become a strategic investor alongside Chinese e-commerce giant Alibaba Group and Tencent Holdings Ltd., an online games and entertainment service, Didi Chuxing announced Friday.

China's ride-hailing industry has grown rapidly, with competitors spending heavily to subsidize rides to capture market share.

The latest deal reflects Apple's increased emphasis on services as growth in its iPhone business slows, said Jack Kent of IHS Technology in a report.

"The investment in Didi highlights the strategic importance of China and the services segment for Apple's future strategy," Kent said. "It could help Apple gain greater insight into the behavior of users beyond its own ecosystem."

Didi Chuxing, previously Didi Kuaidi, operates in 400 Chinese cities.

In September, the company and Lyft of the United States agreed to link their services to allow travelers to use them in each other's markets. In December, their alliance added India's Ola and Southeast Asia's GrabTaxi.

Dear women, here are 6 tricks for always looking elegant and classy

Dear women, here are 6 tricks for always looking elegant and classy

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You have a lot of things to do, a family to take care of and perhaps seemingly never-ending responsibilities. You need to get them all done well and on time, but you never want to look anything less than perfect. How can you manage this?

Nikkie Plessen, Dutch fashion designer and owner of NIKKIE fashion brand in Galeries Lafayette, Pacific Place, Central Jakarta. Although she was on a tight schedule and needed to catch a flight, she managed to share some stories about her current collection as well as tips for women on how to effortlessly look elegant and classy.

Tailored pants

Don’t go for the size you want, go for what fits on your body. In general, whether it's pants or clothes, choose what reflects your body size. If you want to, it is better to have it a little bit bigger than your size rather than too small.

Tailored pants will not only flatter your body shape, but will also look classy because they go well with many kinds of shoes; be it ballet flats, sneakers or high heels.

Look at your skin color

Pick clothes that fit well with your skin color or tone. To look for the right color, you can just use colored paper at home and take a look at yourself in the mirror alongside it.

Look for the colors that compliment you, the ones that make you look brighter or that add some color to your skin. This is important because different colors create a different effect for everyone, as in not every person will look good in bright red and not everyone will be flattered by deep blue.

Pay attention to your body shape

The right shaped clothes can help to make you look even better, so it is important to pay attention to your body shape and look for the clothes that will help you create a more charming look.

For example, you may want to consider using high-waisted pants or skirts that fit your abdomen comfortably if you want to hide your stomach.

Look for what you really like

Rather than following the trends or looking at the books, go for a style that you really like.

Nikkie emphasized that it is very important for someone to choose a style that they really want because when someone is comfortable in their clothes, it shows through their eyes and it makes them more attractive.

Look for fabric that doesn’t wrinkle easily

Sometimes, although a design and a fabric look good, it wrinkles as soon as you sit down. This won’t do, so when shopping for clothes, try wrinkling the fabric first and look at how fast it gets back to its original shape.

Good fabric will get back into shape faster.

Always pack your ballet flats

Nikkie said to take your ballet flats with you everywhere, as she herself does. Ballerina shoes, or ballet flats, are good to wear after a long day at work; at that moment when you want to slip off your tiring heels and escape your tiring work.

Keep in mind that though it is important to look good, it is also important to be comfortable.

8 things to avoid wearing on a first date

8 things to avoid wearing on a first date

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There are unspoken fashion rules for women when it comes to first dates, as it is best to look comfortable and not try too hard to impress. Here is a list of fashion no-no’s for first dates.

Revealing too much skin

Make sure you wear comfortable clothes that reflect your personality and leave something to the imagination by not showing too much.

High heels

While it’s nice to be confident in heels, height can make men feel intimidated, especially if your date is shorter than you. Opt for lower heels or flat shoes as wearing flip flops can be too casual.

Granny panties

While it’s advisable not to go too far on a first date, wearing granny panties is too comfortable. Wearing sexy underwear, however, can boost your confidence.

Brightly colored clothes

On a first date, both you and your date will want to see if there are any sparks. Wearing brightly colored clothes could draw too much attention from other people, making both of you feel uncomfortable. You don't want to be spotted by people you know who'll come over to your table and interrupt your date, right?

Colorful accessories

The same rule applies to accessories too. Wearing accessories that are too colorful can be as distracting as wearing too many. A simple but memorable accessory is better. For example, try to avoid wearing a big crescent necklace, but wear round earrings for a lasting impression.

New clothes and shoes

We know how much you want to impress your date, but buying a new dress or shoes is definitely unnecessary. First, because it's a waste of money. Second, a new dress or shoes could be uncomfortable to wear and your date might think you don't feel comfortable being with them.

Heavy make-up

Men claim they like a natural look, so avoid heavy make-up. Let your real character shine through so your date can decide whether you're their dream woman or not. Some men actually love women with make-up, but try not to let it hide your real face.

Strong perfume

Scents leave a strong and lasting impression of someone, but if you don’t want to make your date feel dizzy and ruin your chance of getting to know each other more, refrain from wearing too much perfume. Just spray a bit on your wrist and neck, and chances are your date will remember you better.

Inside Patty Duke's Colorful Romantic Life

Inside Patty Duke's Colorful Romantic Life

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Patty Duke died Tuesday at the age of 69. And while her legacy will certainly live on in her many celebrated performances in both film and television, those close to the actress say they'll remember her most for one thing: her ability to love.

"The true story of her life isn't her work and it isn't her advocacy, it's the love relationship she's had with her husband Mike for the last 30 years," Duke's son, actor Sean Astin, told the Associated Press.

But while Duke found happiness with her husband Michael Pearce, she traveled a winding road to get there. Duke was married three times before tying the knot with Pearce, a former military drill sergeant, in 1986.

In a desperate attempt to break free from her abusive surrogate parents and acting managers John and Ethel Ross, Duke married Harry Falk Jr., a 32-year-old assistant director on The Patty Duke Show, at the age of 18.

With a marriage marred by Duke's increasing manic mood swings due to her then-undiagnosed bipolar disorder, which often manifested in bouts of severe drug and alcohol use, the couple split after just two years. They divorced in 1967.

"I didn't know how to be an adult," Duke told PEOPLE in 1999 of that turbulent time. "I had no preparation."

Three years later, Duke, then 23, embarked on an affair with a 17-year-old Desi Arnaz Jr., whose mother, Lucille Ball, publicly opposed the relationship. But they continued to see each other, off and on, for several months.

In June 1970, Duke, in a manic state, impulsively wed Michael Tell, a "total stranger" who had been subletting her apartment (they were together for 13 days and the marriage was annulled a year later). But just prior to their marriage, Duke had discovered she was pregnant.

The actress later deduced that the father of her baby was actor John Astin, star of the Addams Family TV series, who was married at the time. They kept their affair secret until after their son Sean was born and Astin's divorce was final. They ultimately tied the knot in 1972.

Duke and Astin had a second son together, Mackenzie, in 1973.

When Sean was 14, Duke confessed that Astin was not the boy's father. Instead, she explained that Arnaz was, in fact, his biological father.

After his mother told him about Arnaz, Sean and Arnaz developed a relationship. But when Sean was in his 20s, he met a relative of Tell's who suggested they were related. In order to get the final, truthful answer, Sean underwent a DNA paternal test involving all three men.

The outcome: Michael Tell was Sean's father.

"Desi Arnaz Jr. loves me, and I love him. We are so close," Sean told ABC in 2004. "Science tells me that he's not my biological father. Science tells me that Mike Tell is."

Sean has since maintained a relationship with all three men, but regards the man who raised him since birth, Astin, as his father.

"I can call any of them on the phone any time I want to," Sean explained to ABC. "John, Desi, Mikes or Papa Mike ... my four dads."

Duke and Astin divorced in 1985, but remained amicable. "There is a deep and abiding love between us, but we just don't get along," she told PEOPLE in 1987. "It's sort of like fingernails on the blackboard. He does it to me and I do it to him. We even laugh about it sometimes because it's so absurd."

In 1986, Duke married Sgt. Michael Pearce, whom she met while filming A Time to Triumph. Duke became an enthusiastic stepmother to his daughters Raelene, then 10, and Charlene, 8. Kevin was adopted in 1988.

The two remained married and lived happily together on a farm in Idaho until Duke's death on Tuesday.

"He became her 30-year project, and she finally in her life had a protector," Sean told the Associated Press. "And so she showed him the world and he took care of her and until this morning at 1:20 they were connected with a bond that is impossible to describe."

Why No One’s Watching Empire Overseas

Why No One’s Watching Empire Overseas

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When Empire first debuted in the U.S. last year, it was a ratings juggernaut the size of the Super Bowl. Its second season hasn't quite matched that success (did you even know it returns from midseason hiatus tonight?), but it remains one of Fox's biggest hits. So why, then, has Empire been a virtual flop overseas? According to The Hollywood Reporter, both seasons of the show have bombed in the U.K., Australia, Canada, and Germany — and the foreign network's reason for the show's global failure is just as ridiculous as you think. Simply put: International audiences apparently can't relate to a show with an all-black cast.

"These shows are a reflection of our society, but [they are] not a reflection of all societies," Marion Edwards, president of international TV at Fox, says. "Having a diverse cast creates another hurdle for U.S. series trying to break through; it would be foolish not to recognize that. We are telling our units that they need to be aware that by creating too much diversity in the leads in their show means … problems having their shows translating to the international market." Oof.

But experts say it goes beyond just the casting. One professor of African-American studies tells THR that part of the problem is Empire features black actors telling a very black story, whereas international audiences might be more inclined to watch "black faces but non-ethnically specific kinds of stories,” like global smashes CSI and NCIS. In other words, if it's too black, it might be too unwatchable for certain people.

An even more logical reason (or at least one that isn't offensive) is that Empire's kind of format just doesn't work in some overseas markets. German networks say that its audiences are more likely to watch an American procedural or sitcom than a drama with multiple story arcs that play out over an 18-episode season — because not even smart Europeans can keep up with who's having whose baby. Well, that's certainly a better PR look than "our people can't relate to black people," isn't it? Not a word of any of this to Idris, we beg you.

Enhance Fertility Naturally

Enhance Fertility Naturally

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Infertility refers to an inability to conceive after having regular unprotected sex. Infertility can also refer to the biological inability of an individual to contribute to conception, or to a female who cannot carry a pregnancy to full term. In many countries infertility refers to a couple that has failed to conceive after 12 months of regular sexual intercourse without the use of contraception.

Studies indicate that slightly over half of all cases of infertility are a result of female conditions, while the rest are caused by either sperm disorders or unidentified factors.

According to The Mayo Clinic:

• About 20% of cases of infertility are due to a problem in the man.
• About 40% to 50% of cases of infertility are due to a problem in the woman.
• About 30% to 40% of cases of infertility are due to problems in both the man and the woman.

According to the Department of Health and Human Services, USA, approximately 10% to 15% of couples are infertile - meaning they have not conceived after at least one year of regular, unprotected sex.

Many cases of apparent infertility are treatable. Infertility may have a single cause in one of the partners, or it could be the result of a combination of factors. For details visit www.enjoyqualityhealth.com

Risk Factors of Infertility

In medicine, a risk factor is something that raises the risk of developing a condition, disease or symptom. For example, obese people are more likely to develop diabetes type 2 compared to people of normal weight; therefore, obesity is a risk factor for diabetes type 2.

Age
Smoking

Alcohol consumption

Being obese or overweight

Eating disorders - women who become seriously underweight as a result of an eating disorder may have fertility problems.

Being vegan - if you are a strict vegan you must make sure your intake of iron, folic acid, zinc and vitamin B-12 are adequate, otherwise your fertility may become affected.

Over-exercising- a woman who exercises for more than seven hours each week may have ovulation problems.

Not exercising - leading a sedentary lifestyle is sometimes linked to lower fertility in both men and women.

Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) - chlamydia can damage the fallopian tubes, as well as making the man's scrotum become inflamed. Some other STIs may also cause infertility.

Exposure to some chemicals - some pesticides, herbicides, metals (lead) and solvents have been linked to fertility problems in both men and women.

Mental stress - studies indicate that female ovulation and sperm production may be affected by mental stress. If at least one partner is stressed it is possible that the frequency of sexual intercourse is less, resulting in a lower chance of conception.

Causes of infertility in women

Ovulation disorders

Problems with ovulation are the most common cause of infertility in women, experts say. Ovulation is the monthly release of an egg. In some cases, the woman never releases eggs, while in others the woman does not release eggs during come cycles.

Ovulation disorders can be due to:

• Premature ovarian failure.
• PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome)
• Hyperprolactinemia
• Poor egg quality
• Overactive thyroid gland
• Underactive thyroid gland
• Some chronic conditions, such as AIDS or cancer.

Problems in the uterus or fallopian tubeswww.enjoyqualityhealth.com

The egg travels from the ovary to the uterus (womb) where the fertilized egg grows. If there is something wrong in the uterus or the fallopian tubes the woman may not be able to conceive naturally. This may be due to:

• Surgery
• Submucosal
• Endometriosis
• Previous sterilization treatment
• Medications: Some drugs can affect the fertility of a woman. These include:

NSAIDs (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs) - women who take aspirin or ibuprofen long-term may find it harder to conceive.

Chemotherapy - some medications used in chemotherapy can result in ovarian failure. In some cases, this side effect of chemotherapy may be permanent.

Radiotherapy

If radiation therapy was aimed near the woman’s reproductive organs there is a higher risk of fertility problems.

Illegal drugs

Some women who take marijuana or cocaine may have fertility problems.

Causes of infertility in men

Abnormal semen is responsible for about 75% of all cases of male infertility. Unfortunately, in many cases doctors never find out why. The following semen problems are possible:

Low sperm count (low concentration) - the man ejaculates a lower number of sperm, compared to other men. Sperm concentration should be 20 million sperm per milliliter of semen. If the count is under 10 million there is a low sperm concentration (subfertility).

No sperm- when the man ejaculates there is no sperm in the semen.

Low sperm mobility (motility) - the sperm cannot "swim" as well as it should.

Abnormal sperm, Testicular infection, Testicular cancer, Testicular surgery

Overheating the testicles, Ejaculation disorders

Varicocele- this is a varicose vein in the scrotum that may cause the sperm to overheat.

Undescended testicle

Hypogonadism- testosterone deficiency can result in a disorder of the testicles.

Genetic abnormality - a man should have an X and Y chromosome. If he has two X chromosomes and one Y chromosome (Klinefelter's syndrome) there will be an abnormal development of the testicles, low testosterone, and a low sperm count (sometimes no sperm at all).

Mumps- this viral infection usually affects young children. However, if it occurs after pubertyinflammation of the testicles may affect sperm production.

Hypospadias- the urethral opening is at the underside of the penis, instead of its tip. This abnormality is usually surgically corrected when the male is a baby. If it is not the sperm may find it harder to get to the female's cervix. Hypospadias occur in about 1 in every 500 newborn boys.

Cystic fibrosis

Radiotherapy- radiation therapy can impair sperm production. The severity usually depends on how near to the testicles the radiation was aimed.

Some diseases - the following diseases and conditions are sometimes linked to lower fertility in males: Anemia, Cushing's syndrome, Diabetes, Thyroid disease.

Medications

Illegal drugs - consumption of marijuana and cocaine can lower a man's sperm count. www.enjoyqualityhealth.com

WAY OUT NATURALLY!!!

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Are you experiencing or having any of the following problems?

Miscarriage, High Prolactin, Hormonal Imbalances, Low Sexual Drive, Irregular Menstrual Cycles, Delayed Periods, Endometriosis, Ovarian Cyst, Abnormal periods. Bleeding is heavier or lighter than usual,Irregular periods, No periods. Painful periods. Back pain, pelvic pain, and cramping may happen.Skin changes, including more acne, Weight gain.

Other symptoms include:Milky white discharge from nipples unrelated to breastfeeding and Pain during sex
For men

• Pain, lump, or swelling in the testicles

• Problems with erections and ejaculation
• Small, firm testicles

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